Understanding how I experienced certain life events
gives me greater knowledge of myself and more
detachment from my self-destructive patterns. When I
refuse to remember the pain of early experiences —
projecting it onto others and making it about them,
rather than sitting with it and feeling it myself —
instead of resolving the problem, I compound it.
In my inability to sit with my own pain, I ask others
to contain it for me through dynamics such as
projection. It is identifying in someone else what I
should be identifying in myself, displacing a painful
feeling by dumping it onto an unsuspecting receiver.
This does not allow me to do the inner work that I
require to be clean and healthy, and it crosses
another person’s boundary in an unfair, unhealthy way.
My greatest potential for learning is in studying
myself with honesty and openness.
I will look honestly at myself.